What boundaries did WE set? Is it okay to kiss? To go on vacation together? How do you start talking about boundaries with your boyfriend? And more! Let’s talk about some of your AMAZING questions about physical boundaries in dating! XOXO, Tiffany & James

00:50: Q1: How do I start the conversation about boundaries?
02:35: Q2: Is it okay to make out? French kiss? Cuddle? What were YOUR boundaries?
05:15: Q3: Is my heart made of ice if I don’t want to kiss before my wedding day?
05:30: Q4: What do you do if you and your significant other disagree on boundaries?
06:25: Q5: We’re having trouble keeping our boundaries? Should we get married sooner?
07:25: Q6: Is it okay to go on vacation together while dating?
08:05: Q7: Is it normal to still want to go further?
09:10: Q8: We crossed our boundaries. Should we break up?
10:00: Q9: Is it okay for boundaries to change the longer you’re in a relationship?
10:50: Q10: How do I separate personal convictions from people pleasing?

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47 COMMENTS

  1. SO EXCITED to hear your guys' comments on this video! Your questions were AMAZING!! Here is a list of the questions we talked about in today's video, and where in the video you can find them:

    00:50: Q1: How do I start the conversation about boundaries?
    02:35: Q2: Is it okay to make out? French kiss? Cuddle? What were YOUR boundaries?
    – First we talk about why boundaries will look different for different couples.
    – Then we share the three main boundaries we set in our relationship.
    05:15: Q3: Is my heart made of ice if I don't want to kiss before my wedding day?
    05:30: Q4: What do you do if you and your significant other disagree on boundaries?
    06:25: Q5: We're having trouble keeping our boundaries? Should we get married sooner?
    07:25: Q6: Is it okay to go on vacation together while dating?
    08:05: Q7: Is it normal to still want to go further?
    09:10: Q8: We crossed our boundaries. Should we break up?
    – We also talk about how to have a healthy relationship with your boundaries!
    10:00: Q9: Is it okay for boundaries to change the longer you're in a relationship?
    – We also talk about the one thing I wish we'd done differently with our boundaries.
    10:50: Q10: How do I separate personal convictions from people pleasing?

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  3. I really love this video! Thank you for the insight! I just have to say, my boyfriend's name is James and watching your husband in these videos does amuse me because he literally reminds me of my James, the way he talks, his mannerisms. It really cracks me up🤣 But on a serious note. Since my relationship became serious and i ran across your videos I have learned so much and I really appreciate everything you do♥

  4. The question “should we get married if we can’t stop crossing our physical boundaries?” reminds me of this verse: “But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with lust”
    – 1 Corinthians 7:9

    Now obviously this differs under different circumstances, but l do think this verse should be taken into account as it is accounting for a situation many Christian couples find themselves in. God understands how you feel and you are not alone in your feelings. This is why he gave us the Bible as a guide to stay pure ❤️ Love the video Tiffany!

  5. I’m so ridiculously grateful for you guys. Listening to this when I’m dating hits so differently than when I was listening to this when I wasn’t dating. I’m so grateful for this. Thank you!❤️

  6. Remember ladies. In order to have physical boundaries in a relationship you first need to have a relationship. Church is a terrible place to meet a Christian woman.

  7. I don't think you should really talk about it.
    Personally I would just move in on it. If she stops you. Then you can talk about it.
    I do believe you should talk about sex, especially in the beginning of the relationship, find out if you're even compatible sexually.

  8. Do you guys think that you can meet a guy who doesn't want to have kids just adopt and don't you think you should talk about at least that sexually thing before you date… or how would you go about that? Also does anyone as a marriage couple not have sex on their honeymoon or at all like I see no fun thing about it.. am I human😂
    I ask this because I have been watching a lot of other videos too and it seems like everybody does have sex. Also is it not Christian like to not have sex at all in your life or does that make you a bad Christian or whatever? I ask a lot of questions like you Tiffany-lol. I just need a lot more Christian knowledge then I have before I date again.

  9. As a atheist i cannot understand intrinsically the entire god and church related stuff, beside this i had the feeling, that the video was VERY well structured and well thought through, plus you both seem really likeable and reasonable. I am currently in a relationship with a christian girl and we decided to wait until marriage, i really respect her and her decision, further i think it is a "sweet" thing to do and very honorable. Your video was very helpfull to me, thanks.

  10. Good vid!. With my girlfriend, we are strong Christians and know we of course won't have sex or touch certain body parts until marriage. But it was surprising to both of us to find we're comfortable going far in intense kissing and cuddling. We think what we do is probably too much for a lot of Christian's standards, but we feel it works for us and that the Holy Spirit has not disapproves in either of us. So we go with it and enjoy each other! We EXACTLY feel that tension between intense attraction and honoring God, and it's actually super enjoyable to walk that balance with each other and look forward to the future.

  11. I really love your guys' channel! You both seem so comfortable with each other and so comfortable talking about these things (aa everyone should be). I'm really the only religious one in my family so it's really nice seeing mentors like you two. Also, congratulations on the baby!!!!! 🙂

  12. Wow and you’re a youth pastor? How about the Bible says it’s not good to touch a woman!? How about your parents are involved in you’re relationship like the Bible and youth should not be alone.? So thankful our church doesn’t have unbiblical ministries like children’s church and youth groups. I’ve seen the effeminate weak unbiblical teachings in your other videos and my word what’ a sad state the western church is in! “That’s totally fine if you wanna wait till kissing for your wedding day” and yeah it’s totally fine if you don’t wanna touch where undergarments go. I mean just talk and see what’s ok with each other! No need to be biblical! Yeah live in tension!! That’s totally biblical. Ya know like avoid the very appearance of evil. Fleas from sexual sin. Stuff like that . So glad I left the carnal chirchianity culture and came to Christ !

  13. When you are feeling better…I'd really love to hear your video on EMOTIONAL BOUNDARIES! This is a HUGE issue for so many women! Please do this video! Congratulations to you both! The Lord bless you all!!!!❤❤❤❤🤗

  14. Tiffany, are you wearing a motion sickness/nausea band on your wrist? I use them on flights & long car rides! 😂 Praying for your nausea throughout your pregnancy!

  15. I am 39 years old and I wish these conversations were happening when I was younger instead of…Kiss dating goodbye and don't date anyone until you wanna marry them. I love the fact that both of you give advice from a woman's perspective as well as the man's perspective. Both equally valid! Thank you for being so open with us and giving us all encouragement.

  16. Our boundaries were very similar. We adjusted as we went, sometimes deciding to move forward, other times pulling back and praying together if we felt like we went a little too far. Our main rule was to never be in either his apartment or my parents house alone. We spent a LOT of time in a car or other public places. If his roommate wasn’t home We would just sit outside the apartment in the car and talk. It gave us a measure accountability, but privacy to talk as well. We did a lot of restaurant sitting and activities during our dating/engagement when we couldn’t have someone else in the house with us.

  17. Ohh woooww, I just found out your channel since some days ago and I think God is leading me here to learn here.

    Awww so amazing, God bless you marriage and use you to teach us the things that the churches are not teaching🥰❤🎉🎉🤓

    Be blessed and blessed and blessed in jesus name

  18. You guys talk so much sense!! I wish more Christian youtubers spoke the same grounded wisdom you guys speak. You don’t over spiritualise, don’t complicate and you’re very realistic. So helpful, thank you ❤️

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